with Niyaso Carter
Sessions and vacation packages in beautiful Hawaii that offer advice on the journey toward fulfillment and sacredness in lovemaking and intimacy
Customized workshops, couples & individual sessions
For Couples and Individuals of all age-groups, experience and cultural backgrounds
you can set the dates that work for you.
Learn how to bring your relationship and your lovemaking to a higher level of fulfillment and sacredness.
Find the tools and gain the understandings that will enable you to use your relationship and your entire life as a joyful journey of self-discovery
Learn how to use your sexual energy in ways that are most suited to your unique being
Explore the connection between sex and heart
In these Tantra Counseling sessions or vacation packages you are guided to find the steps that are most important for you on your journey of opening and learning about love.
The sessions are customized to be most effective and transformative for you..
Niyaso Carter has extensive experience as an international workshop leader and counselor. Her work is a synthesis of her eastern training in meditation and tantric practices and of her training in psychology and body therapies. She co-created
the best selling educational video The Secrets of Sacred Sex
We will be able to assist you with unique and spectacular accommodations and travel as well
for more information see full write up below
or contact:
Email: niyaso@maui.net Toll Free US: 1 800 688-1715
International: 808 572-2234 FAX: (808) 572-2234
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TANTRA COUNSELING
by Niyaso Carter
Mutual understanding, deep intimacy, sexual fulfillment and healing, these are not givens simply because you are in a relationship.
More and more couples are waking up from the movie- and media-induced myth that once you've found Mr. or Mrs. Perfect you then live happily ever after. Or you get divorced and hope for more luck on the next round. Couples realize, sometimes through much pain and struggle, that a good relationship and a mutually satisfying sex life requires commitment to growth, a willingness to put time and energy into the relationship and an openness to allowing vulnerability and new experiences. They also recognize that receiving information and support from outside of the relationship is an ingredient that makes opening in new ways more likely, much easier, more playful and fun. Having guidance from an outside source can at times make all the difference in being able to take the steps needed to go to the next levels of love, joy and ecstasy or to turn around a difficult situation. Tantra Counseling is what I’ve named the sessions that I offer to support couples in this blossoming of their relationship.
While the word Tantra is commonly used today it’s meaning is a varied as the people who use it. You will find a fuller explanation of what I understand Tantra to mean in the last paragraph of this article. Here is my one-sentence description: "Tantra is learning the art of using sexual energy as a path to love of self, love of others, love of all of life, and the Sacred."
On a pragmatic level, one could simply say that I help people with their sex lives. Some might even call me a sex therapist as I do listen to and teach people about all the graphic details that come up for people around sex. But what’s more important for me is that I teach people how to use the difficulties as well the joys that arise in their sexual and intimate relating as doorways to deepen the love between them, and with that to also deepen their understanding and care for themselves and their connection to the divine.
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For couples
In this section I’ll describe the sessions for couples, below I will describe what the sessions for individuals are like
Offering tools, information and practices, the sessions serve as an inspiration and a support system for the couple to explore new ways of relating, find deeper intimacy and to increase their sexual pleasure and fulfillment.
Many couples enjoy these sessions as part of their vacation in the paradise of Hawaii, which is often the perfect time to open anew in love, to expand the capacity for joy, or to address specific issues in the relationship that have been troublesome.
Packages we create for people are 2 to 5 sessions, several days apart with homework assignments and exercise practices in the interim days. The most typical package is 3 sessions in the course of a week. Or, any number of sessions from one on up can be arranged and some couples choose to come daily. Couples from "off island" may need to take a day to unwind and begin the sessions once they feel acclimatized.
At the beginning of the first session I ask both partners what they are wishing to learn in these sessions, what their issues are in relationship and sexuality and what result they are hoping to experience as from the sessions. Based on this, I devise a course of learning and experiencing during the sessions that is most appropriate for the growth and fulfillment of the couple’s relationship at that time. I may offer a variety of ways to go. The main part of the sessions consists of learning exercises, practices and communication skills, with room for discussion as we go along. This may include anything from simple verbal instructions, sharing and discussion, to guided meditations and tantric practices, communication exercises and sacred rituals. Almost always energy exercises and communication training are part of a session. Seeing what specific lessons your partner is here to help you learn can be an important aspect of the session sometimes.
No explicit sexual activities and no nudity are required during the sessions. At the end of the session, I give homework assignments suggest appropriate resource materials. The homework of course is optional and always designed to be fun and still leave plenty of time to enjoy the island for those on vacation away from a busy schedule. Yet the homework assignments form an important part of the program for those wishing to work more intensively.
In the following sessions, I begin by reviewing with the couple how the assignments went, discuss any difficulties they might have experienced and answer any questions that have arisen. Once the integration of the homework is complete, I move on to expand on what has been learned and bring in new material as it is appropriate. In this way a progressive opening experience takes place. There may be times when I work separately with one or both of the partners , or I may talk separately to each partner before coming together and proceeding.
These sessions may include:
energy exercises (understanding and opening energy flow), breathing exercises, centering meditations, active listening, no blame communication, tantric exercises, learning about the dynamics of yin and yang, learning how to stay in your power and inner truth while relating, understanding your emotional patterns in relationship, information about sexual issues, learning how to open your body, understanding the interplay of emotions and sexuality and problem solving for difficulties.
Since my background is both in the ancient tantric principles and meditation as well as in psychology and body oriented therapies, including working with trauma and abuse issues, there is a wide scope of where we can go and how I can help you learn.
I work with new couples who come to me as their wedding present to themselves, I work a lot with happy long time couples who, having raised their children, now are looking to come together in a new way and explore spiritual sex. I work with couples who are experiencing difficulties in their love life. And I work with couples prior to getting married.
There is always a lot of flexibility as to how the sessions progress. I make sure the learning happens in the most respectful, delightful and effective way, keeping the couple’s goals in mind. The couple and each partner individually, is invited and supported to help shape the sessions so that they feel safe, comfortable and respected in their needs throughout the session.
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For individuals
The ancient Tantrikas (the people who practiced the religion of Tantra) spent years preparing in solo practice for the meeting with their beloved and the Divine. There is much a person can learn and open to on their own. In fact there is some things that require a time of aloneness for their ripening. And you can open to the divine directly without needing a partner.
The individual sessions can be useful in a variety of ways: receiving information, learning practices, getting support in sorting through feelings in regards to a relationship that just ended or learning how to attract a well matched partner
Also, many people who come as an individual to a Tantra Counseling session are in a committed relationship but unable to come with their partner. They bring many useful exercises and insights home with them to their beloved.
What exactly happens in a session totally depends on what the individual or couple needs at the time to take the next step toward sexual and emotional fulfillment and divine love. Some people do these sessions in addition to our scheduled workshops and others prefer the privacy of the sessions to the group context all together.
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The video I co-created with the Australian director Cynthia Connop some years ago is a good introduction to some of the basic tantric ideas presented in the Tantra Counseling sessions. The sessions themselves span a much much broader range of topics. The video in itself is a valuable tool for inspiring and enhancing your sexual life. For reviews on the the video and to order click here
If you don’t wish to stay in the tourist areas of Maui, we are able to assist you with finding exquisite and off the beaten track accommodations in lovely local areas. Let us know if you would like our help with that.
Phone consultations are available
Questions and answer, testimonials and further articles on these sessions coming soon
to find out more about Niyaso's training and background click here About Niyaso
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What is Tantra?
While I studied with a tantric master for many years, I’m not a well studied academic scholar of the eastern scriptures. So here just a little bit of information:
Tantra was a religion practiced in the East, especially India, for thousands of years. What set it apart from other religions was that the tantrikas believed and practiced that one could attain oneness with God, or enlightenment, through full engagement of all the senses. This opposed most other religions that preached asceticism as the way to attain godliness. As part of honoring the senses the tantrikas naturally also included sexuality, as well as the entire shadow side of life on planet earth. Birth, death, light, darkness., creation, destruction, no part of the human experience was left out..
When I use the word Tantra, I mean being commited to a way of living, and of being sexual, that includes all and denies nothing, that honors life in the physical body fully, that honors feelings, that honors life as it exists on planet earth in all it’s facets. Being on a tantric path affects all areas of life and it also means being committed to accept sexual energy as a divine sacred part of life, using sexuality as a path to God, and using relationship as a path to growing and opening to the divine. To this day there is practicing Tantrikas in the mountains of Northern India. Mostly they live very secluded lives.
Email: niyaso@maui.net Toll Free US: 1 800 688-1715
International: 808 572-2234 FAX: (808) 572-2234
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Testimonials for the The Tantra Counseling sessions with Niyaso
Below excerpts of letters and emails from people who took the session
For anonymity’s sake names have been changed
"Coming to Maui and doing the session we expected to learn sexual techniques and improve our love life, and we did both those things, but what surprised and delighted us was the spiritual depth and learning Niyaso invoked in us. We got more then we expected, we truly understand now that our relationship is part of our spiritual unfolding."
Nancy, Yoga instructor, with Randall, physician, from Vancouver
"I was amazed how comfortable I felt within minutes of knowing Niyaso and how easy it was to share real intimate details of our sex life with someone I had never met. I never thought I could do that and still feel good about it afterwards. It felt very respected and we walked away with lots of material to work with and new things to try. Now that we’ve followed her guidelines and are doing the "homework" she gave us, we realize there still lots more to learn, but it’s so very worth it. Just two sessions with her and the homework she gave us moved our relationship to a whole new level of fulfillment. We’ll be coming back next year for more."
Kim, web marketer and Patrick, attorney, from Atlanta
"The kids are grown, our financial life secure, our marriage is solid but not very intimate, it is the obvious time to attend to our relationship. In your session and during the homework you gave us we realized just how much we love each other and now we are excited to discover all the places we have yet to explore together. We are on a whole new adventure and loving it." Mark and Heidi, Texas
"Being in a session with you was like being around a really good mediator, a knowledgeable sex educator and a good spiritual guide all at once. You understood so well what I was trying to communicate, you were like a translator for me. You taught us how to hear one another without reacting and we are much clearer in our roles as feminine and masculine now. And I can see that what Lisa triggers in me is important for my emotional healing."
Jeremy and Lisa, business owners, Santa Rosa, CA
"Even though some topics were pretty intense, Niyaso has a lightness and sense of humor that made it all seem playful and easy." Tom and Margaret
"My husband set up the session and I was willing to come, but also a bit apprehensive. Niyaso’s introduction made me feel safe and comfortable right away. As we moved through the session I gained even more respect for her. Her ability to listen and her sensitivity to the moments when I was having challenging feelings arise, sensing them before I could even speak about them, made me feel very looked after and understood."
Claudia, family counselor and Daniel, stock trader from New Jersey
"We came and did the sessions for our honeymoon. Maui was so beautiful and having our own personal sex coach just made it all perfect."
Victor and Sally, New York
"Our love life had been at a standstill, we either had to get out or learn how to be together in new ways. We covered so many areas in one session, sexual information, communication tools, energetic awareness, we have lots to work with now. I’m very hopeful."
Mark, computer consultant, Emily, mother of 4, Seattle
"Niyaso is very direct, she got to the bottom of our disfunctional patterns of relating so fast we were both astounded, but she never challenged me more then I could take and always checked in how I was doing. I found her approach to be very respectful and at the same time powerful. We now have a clearer sense of why we get stuck and some good tools to get us unstuck." Paul, contractor, and Cynthia, fashion designer, Portland, OR
"We came to Maui for a learning and healing vacation after we’d seen the video the Secrets of Sacred Sex. The sessions with you were very educational, we also love the resource materials and reading suggestions you made and the exercises we can do at home now. But what stays with me most from our time together is a sense of sweetness and feeling deeply understood and touched, thank you."
Sandra, physician, and Trevor, architect from Santa Barbara
"I’m so glad we came to have these session with you before our wedding. .It set a wonderful pace of open communication and exploration in our marriage. Thank you."
David and Merely, Marin County, California
"I never knew one could go into so much verbal sexual graphic detail and have it feel so sensitive and intimate at the same time. Niyaso has a great sense of humor which helped us get through the more difficult or embarrasing parts of what we had to learn." Samantha and Theo from Germany
"Being a counselor myself I have great respect for the skill and ease with which you worked with us, I realize that I need to allow my receptive feminine more if I want my relationship with a Anthony to work." Beth, social worker
"Having been raised by only my mom I’m used to always defer to women, I realize that to truly honor who I am as a man and to truly have a good time I need trust my own power and instincts and intellect more and speak up and take charge. We both are a little wobbly in our new roles, but the spark is back in our sex life, thank you"
Anthony, musician
