About
Workshops
Question:
I am interested in your workshop and I am single. Is your
workshop geared more towards couples?
Answer: This workshop is designed for singles as
well as couples and is equally valuable for both. We find
that making a workshop available for people in all different
states of relationship makes for the richest learning
experience and we have worked this way enough by now to
be able to make it also complelety safe for either couples
and singles. Sometimes we get just one person out if a
couple coming, that works too. Since we place so much
emphasis on recognizing and learning about boundaries,
every participant has lots of choice how to participate
or not to participate in any given part of the workshop.
Happiness
and fulfillment in intimate loving is found when we learn
once again to love all of our being, regardless of what
has caused ourselves to distrust ourselves and others.
This self love is what allows us to be in touch with our
sensual, sexual and loving nature. Then we can be fully
human and directly experience the sacred and divine aspects
of our existence. That is what this workshop teaches,
and it is for everybody, whether single or in relationship.
It is a total experiential education in sexuality and
intimate loving.
Question:
I am hoping that these workshops will help me to improve
my self knowledge and increase my personal strength, while
reducing my dependency in intimate relationships. I have
very recently ended a relationship and feel that the above
issues are a large part of that. Do you think it is too
soon after my break up to come to your workshop?
Answer:
It actually sounds like it may be a good time for you
to attend our workshop because you are in the process
of really looking at yourself in the area of relationship
and what might be your part in why it didn't work. Our
workshop very much supports this kind of self inquiry
in regards to intimate relating. The only situation in
which we discourage people who've recently separated to
come to our seminar is if we feel that they are attending
only for the purpose of avoiding the grieving process.
However, even then, due to the nature of the work and
the space that is created, people invariably are assisted
in finding themselves more deeply.
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Question:
I need to make some improvement in my relationship but
my partner is not willing to come to the workshop. Is
it appropriate to come alone?
Answer:
Yes, in fact lots of times only one partner in a couple
attends a workshop. They then take home to their partner
the tools learned in the workshop and all that was understood.
Participation in a seminar need not be anything that will
compromise your relationship in any way.
Question:
Are the boundaries of each individual fully respected?
I can be quite shy with people when I first meet them
and can feel awkward. It can take time for me to settle
down and be comfortable in an unfamiliar group. I am concerned
that I may get to the workshop and find that it goes too
deeply too quickly for me.
Answer:
We take great care not only to respect everyone's boundaries
but also to support each participant to discover their
boundaries and to honor them. We honor your pace and timing
and there is absolutely no pressure as to what you should
be doing or how you should be participating. The workshop
goes deep, but not in the way you are fearing. The depth
comes from the permission that every one is given to be
themselves and to not have to fit in to any particular
program. In fact one of the things people find most impressive
about our programs is how much permission there is to
honor themselves and discover and live according to their
innermost needs and integrity, how many varied ways there
are to participate in our program and yet how deep and
powerful and focuesd the work and is .
Question:
I am wondering if there is nudity in your workshop? I
am also concerned about the possibility of being put in
a situation that may be construed as voyeuristic?
Answer:
There is no requirement for nudity at any point during
our workshop, however, we do have a clothing optional
policy in the workshops that are longer then a weekend.
During the later days of the program some participants
may choose to work partially clothed or in the nude at
times. How much clothes you wear or how few is a very
personal choice and it is important for each individual
to honor what is right for them. In the workshop we encourage
people to respect their personal preferences in this matter
and in all other matters. No nudity is required to receive
the full benefit of the workshop.
Voyerism has never been an issue at any of our workshops.
Our programs are far too authentic , as well as emotionally
and physically engaging as to attract or sustain voyeuristic
behaviors.
Question:
We already have your video. We are interested in your
workshops and would like more details. Do they involve
groups practicing the techniques shown in the video?
Answer:
Some of the exercises in the video are taught in the workshops
and much more. In the workshops we have individuals participating
as well as couples, so there is a wide range of how people
choose to use the invitations we offer. Some of what you
saw on the video is practiced and many new exercises are
introduced. All of which can be done at different levels
of participation. Our focus in the workshop is not on
teaching techniques but rather on providing experiences
for people that teach them how to be more fully alive
and in love within themselves and with their partner.
In our workshops you learn meditations, energy processes
and communication tools that keep you profoundly connected
with yourself as you engage in intimate encounters. These
encounters are sometimes more, sometimes less sensual
and erotic. You learn how to move through old barriers
that have prevented or sabotaged your intimate connections
and love relationships.
Question:
Are these workshops designed with an emphasis on touching
ourselves and our partners? Does it involve intimate touching
of people other than our partners? I am mostly interested
in a workshop that works on my inner sense of love, joy
and happiness and expanding that to my partner.
Answer:
Touching is not the main emphasis of our workshop, and
certainly touching people other than your partner is not
required to get the benefits of this workshop. In fact,
what you describe is really what we are all about. No
specific actions on your part is necessary other than
honoring your truth. Among many other parts, touching
exercises do play an important part in the workshop.In
this workshop, you receive guidance and support while
meetings with others, or just one other if you are attending
with a partner, you learn to connect more from your truth
and to remain alive in your playfulness, your passion,
and your desire, as well as your fears, instead of cutting
off and isolating yourself. You also learn to enjoy your
desire for intimate contact, to honor your personal boundaries
and to communicate both.
Question:
I have sexual abuse issues. Is this the right workshop
for me?
Answer:
It depends where you are in your journey of healing
and releasing these issues. Most likely, if you are at
the stage of being able to speak about your issues and
know them, which obviously you are, since you can bring
it up, you are at a stage where the workshop may very
well be a fabulous way for you to reopen your energy and
regain some long lost joy. It is totally ok to be scared
and apprehensive about joining. I have worked with these
issues a lot and understand the dynamic of fear coupled
with a longing for healing and I always take extra care
with the more delicate people in the workshop. You can
always call when you get close to signing up for the workshop
and give us your specific situation and we'll let you
know whether we think it is appropriate or not.
Question:
For singles, how does the pairing up happen in your workshops?
Answer:
As already said earlier there is always lots of options
as to how to do each exercise. If an exercise involves
pairing up with someone, we will usually describe the
exercise and it's purpose beforehand. If the participant
chooses to do the exercise, they can choose a partner
or be chosen. On occasion we will make a suggestion also,
as to who someone might pick. Who ends up being paired
up will of course also color how the exercise will go.
We spend considerable time here also, talking about boundaries
and honoring one's own needs and wants. There is nothing
haphazard about how we support people in approaching this
pairing up process. Many times this process in and of
itself becomes a constructive learning experience.
Question:
What do you hope for people to experience or learn
when coming to your workshop?
Answer:
There are a million ways to answer this question.
But I'll keep it simple. We do everything we can to give
people a fun, playful, uplifting and deeply nurturing
experience, and we've been doing this for a while so we're
pretty good at it. If it's not fun, why do it. And at
the same time we know that what we offer is deeply transformative.
I definitely expect people to walk away with lots of new
tools and insights that will make their life and their
love so much better and richer.
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